five things, december 10 edition

IMG_6815 1. I think I'm finally admitting that I don't like my comfortor cover, and I need a new one. Although who can buy things for themselves at this time of year?
2. I think it's really hard not to buy things for myself at this time of year when I'm doing all this shopping.
3. I think if I'm going to have a kidney stone, that was the way to do it. But I think I'd prefer not to do it again, thanks.
4. I think getting cozy is one of my favorite things about winter, and this guy in our tree clearly agrees. And I can't believe our three very fierce guard dogs never knew he was there.
5. I think I have some of the dearest friends a person could ask for (Seamane, I am looking at you). And thanks are not enough for the gratitude I feel for their sweet thoughtfulness.

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date night

IMG_6694 The weather turned wintry over the past few days. We got our tree on a chilly, windy night, picking the first one we laid eyes on. Took us three more days to get the darn thing decorated, though!

Neel had a work function that I opted out of on Saturday evening so Callum and I had a lovely date night. We had everything planned out. Make a wreath using a hot glue gun. Fondue for dinner and watch Elf. Every one of those plans was in jeaporday at one point except the fondue, and the fondue travail came later. We needed Christmas bows to make the wreath, and I couldn't find the ones I wanted anywhere. Target has nice bows, but the bags were too multi-colored. And Walgreens? Fifteen bows for $3.99. Give me a break! So my neighbor Jean braved Wal-mart and came home with two bags of silver and white bows. Just what I wanted.

IMG_6668 Making the wreath was super easy and fun. We got started as soon as Neel was out the door. It's from this month's Martha Stewart Living and wasn't nearly as daunting to me as most of her crafty projects seem to be. Callum handled the glueing (he's been using the glue gun in art lately), and I handled the placement and sticking. We were ridiculuously proud of ourselves.

IMG_6688 Turns out we don't have Elf. We do have Home Alone though, so we watched that instead. Callum was iffy on Elf anyway, so maybe it's for the best. And the fondue was great. It was nice not having to share it among three people for a change! At one point as we were finishing up, Callum started hollering. I thought he was reacting to those poor stupid burglars, but no.

IMG_6675 No, he'd stabbed himself with the fondue fork. It took me a minute to figure out what happened. There was no fork in sight, but apparently he'd had to pull it out of his leg. Ouch. Nothing a litte lovin' and Neosporin can't cure.

After that it was hard to settle back in and watch the movie, and besides that, it had started to SNOW! Just flurries, but oh! The excitement. We stood on the porch and tasted the first flakes of the year on our tongue and waited for Neel to come home. We were so excited to see him and had so much to tell even after just a few hours. A good time was had by all. A project, a moving movie, a great dinner, snow and DANGER. Quite possibly the best date ever.

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la boulangerie

IMG_0335 So Violet has developed a fascination with all things French lately. She's speaking with a French accent and has been begging for a beret for Christmas. And she's always asking, "Aller à la boulangerie pour le déjeuner, maman?"

IMG_1606 Sadly, when we went to a sweet French bistro for lunch with my mom last weekend, it was without her. Elle était très triste.

IMG_6306 If you get to Williamsburg, Virginia anytime soon (which I highly recommend), check out the Blue Talon Bistro. My friend Megan introduced me to this wonderful spot, and I go back everytime we head up there. I've never had dinner there, only lunch, and only lunch has always been wonderful.

IMG_6296 My camera wasn't cooperating, so I didn't get many pictures. It's simple food. I had a meatloaf sandwich, and my mom had a burger. Neel ordered this wonderful appetizer called brandade that was heavenly, creamy goodness, and I must try to recreate it. But I really think Callum came out the winner with his French Onion Soup (but, of course!) and Parisian Hot Chocolate with homemade marshmallows. It was warm and thick and everything a mug of melted chocolate should be. Fortunately Callum needed help to tackle it!

IMG_6305 And I mean hot chocolate, not cocoa. Hello hot chocolate. We'll be back.

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clash

 Photo Well, it certainly doesn't feel like Christmas around here. It's creepy windy and warm this morning with a line of thunderstorms moving through, just in time for the school run. Of course. I'll take it though if the compensation is the beautiful sight we saw as we were leaving Callum's school yesterday.

A strong cold front waits behind all this weird weather, and that'll really get me in the mood. I have a load of work weighing me down, but all I want to do is decorate!

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back to life

IMG_6291 Oh gosh we had such a nice visit with my mom. Perfect chill Thanksgiving, and I still think it was my best turkey ever. It's funny about Thanksgiving, at least cooking the "big meal." Going in, it always feels like such a big production. So many sides to juggle, and who cooks turkey often enough to feel completely comfortable doing it?

I was the tiniest bit stressed out on Tuesday because I'd never left my meal planning that late in the game, and I made our family do work at dinner as soon as Mom arrived. We carved out a list and did the shopping on Wednesday, and Thursday actually felt like a breeze. I remember looking around the kitchen and thinking, that's it? Okay, we're ready to go. That was easy. AND I made homemade cranberry sauce! Who knew how easy that would be?

We braved the mall and went shopping on Black Friday (while Neel and Callum went to HP #7, Part 1), and that was loads of fun. Williamsburg on Saturday, and by Sunday we were outing-outed. Beat. I think we spent the day just one step up from jammies. Nice.

Mom left yesterday, and it feels good to be back in a routine. Back to the rhythm of work and school. I love this time of year. I brought all the decorations down from the third floor, Neel put on the lights on the tree outside, and we'll get our tree this weekend. I'm ready for Christmas music on in the house.

Except I think I have a cold. Chicken noodle soup and Zicam time.

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five things, november 26 edition

IMG_5713 1. I think I made my best turkey ever yesterday.
2. I know I'm very touched to have been asked to take some family photos of one of my favorite families today. I think I'm nervous too.
3. I think I'm still filled with gratitude. May I feel this way all year long.
4. I think there are three pairs of shoes/boots I want. Merry Christmas to me?
5. I think it's pretty nice that this shelf has stood in the entryways of three of the homes we have lived in over fifteen years. When we repainted this room along with the guestroom and hall, I thought about moving it, but I couldn't bring myself to do it.

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in which she speaks of gratitude

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Oh, it's a busy week. My mom comes today. Hooray for Ama! There're shows to be shown and food to be cooked. And hey! Food to be eaten. I think I'll take a little break from blogging and just enjoy my life. I'll leave you with some scenes from this beautiful fall and some of the things I feel grateful for. (Hint: there's a lot. I won't list them all. This is just a start.)

IMG_5953 tree and tree, our crepe myrtle and rebecca and evans' japanese maple

1. I'm grateful that my mom will be here in time to see some of the glorious fall color we've had.
2. I'm grateful for my work life. I'm challenged by it, and I'm really enjoying it.
3. I'm grateful for Callum's school.
4. I'm grateful for Callum and the young man he's becoming.
5. I'm grateful for my camera.
6. I'm grateful for Thanksgiving.
7. I'm grateful for Thanksgiving dinner.
8. I'm grateful for the good friends who have taken good care of me and my family this year.
9. I'm grateful for three little dogs who sleep in the sunlight in the room next to mine while I work.
10. I'm grateful for my headache medication.
11. I'm grateful for a sense of humor.
12. I'm grateful for Neel's sense of humor.
13. I'm grateful for marriage.
14. I'm so grateful for my marriage.
15. I believe in marriage.
16. Everyone should have the right to be married.
17. I'm grateful for my new storm door (photos coming soon).
18. I'm grateful that we have more of an awareness of pediatric migraines than was available when I was a kid.
19. I'm grateful for my home. My house, my town, my life.
20. I'm grateful for this blog and all who come here to read it.

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five things, november 19 edition

IMG_3604 1. I think I could spend days (and lots of money) blowing up photos and hanging them on my walls.
2. I think I have Christmas pretty much figured out (expect a detailed e-mail in your inbox soon, Neel).
3. I think I can't quite believe I have plans for practically every waking minute this weekend starting with tonight last night.
4. I think I love the time of year between November 1st and January 5th.
5. I think Callum had a migraine this week, and I know that has me very worried.

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palette cleanse

IMG_5684 After years of near-riotious explosions of color, we're finally calming things down a bit around here. When we first moved from California I worried a lot about leaving light behind. We'd grown quite used to endless days of sunny skies, and facing winter again was a daunting task. I'm almost embarrassed to admit that I went a little crazy with the pastels for awhile there in an effort to counterbalance what I feared would be months on end of leaden gray, early dark afternoons. Our hall and entry was a sunny yellow, and for a (brief) while the living room was an almost sky blue. It was cheery all right.

In the seven years since we've been here, the dining room, living room and family room/kitchen have all changed color several times (the dining room and living room both a grand total of three each -yikes!), and we've gradually moved to a more muted color palette. Our family room is a sea gray (color: zircon from Sherwin Williams), the dining room is Valspar Brilliant Metals from Lowes, sort of a Tiffany box blue color, and the living room, also from Valspar is a creamy pearl. (I did a quick internet search for the actual names of the colors and didn't have much luck. Besides, I seriously doubt you're going to run out and paint your house just! like! mine! anyway.)

These three colors feel good together. They feel subtle and minimal, which was the sense I wanted in this wandery downstairs of a house, but that left large parts of the place with those (admittedly cheery) pastels that just didn't feel right anymore.

IMG_5693 Say goodbye to The Lavender Room. Remember our guest room with all of my grandmother's lovely things? What I decided I wanted was a unified color in the downstairs entryway, the stairwell (pictured at the start of this post), the upstairs hall and the guest room. One seamless flow of creamy white.

IMG_5705 So we started with the guest room. The alcove in that room is such a sweet spot that we kept it purple, but I wasn't even very sad to paint over the rest of it with that bright, warm white (Fresh Cotton, also Valspar, also Lowes).

IMG_5687 I'm glad we kept that little nod to the way it used to be. Although my dad was the first to stay in the rehabed room, I thought about my mom a lot as we I painted. It was her mom who loved purple so much. Her mom's painting hangs on the wall. Her mom's bed sits cozily piled with comfy blankets and pillows. But it seems though that my mom gets nothing but bad news when she stays in this room, so I'm hoping the color change will bring a sea-change for her in that regard.

IMG_5689 As the first strokes of the roller went on, I tried to fill them with warm and hopeful thoughts, but the Kilz was such a pain in the butt that I soon gave up and just wanted finished with the darn thing. So much for a sea change. My irritated mood might be more fitting, though! We didn't call my grandmother Eeyore for nothing.

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IMG_5696 We didn't stop at the walls in this room. Added a shelf for some books, and topped it with a sweet blue fan from etsy to replace the ceiling fan we took out. Switched out some dressers and gave the ladder back chair we use as a night stand new life with some silver spray paint. Alfie pointed out that it's nice to have a chair to put your jammies on, so in when another chair, and hey! What about a mirror? That might be a nice thing for guests to use. All it lacks is a flat screen tv and a mini fridge and people may never want to leave.

After I got past the irritated part of the project, I moved straight into worried (one of the 8 stages of painting {excited, undecided, resolved, excited (again) worried, tired, whiny and satisfied}). Was it too white? Was it not warm enough? Too like the trim? Does it look like we don't care about color? Because we really do care about color! When I thought about these walls in my mind, I was thinking about maybe Parisian apartment or country farmhouse. Spare, unadorned. Beauty in their simplicity. In the old part of our house the walls are heavily plastered, and I wanted that work to shine. A few weeks later we were painting the hall the same white, and when Neel was doing the hard ceiling part, he said, "I really like this color, it reminds me of the whitewashed walls on those houses we saw in Greece."

Okay. I think we got it right.

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royal evening

IMG_5788 After weeks and weeks of hard work, Callum shone in his school play, The Emperor's New Clothes on Friday night.

IMG_5766 New schools bring a host of new experiences, and this was one of many this fall. This theatre program is very different from what he's used to. After school rehearsals, a group of kids who sign up to be there instead of a whole-school production. Callum is used to having a significant part to play, and he stepped into a crowd who is just as committed as he is. He did a great job at handling a smaller role. Fewer lines maybe this time, but learning to function as an important part of an ensemble. And honestly, he didn't want a big role this go around. There was enough to adjust to as it was.

IMG_5777 He hates that it's over, this Royal Guard of mine. But, what a show! Callum had his grandparents and a great-aunt and uncle in the audience, as well as a large contingent from his old school. I'm so thrilled for him that he had so many familiar faces in the crowd.

Spring will bring lacrosse and not a chance to be back up on the stage, but he's already looking toward summer camp (The Lion King!), and even next fall. Bravo, my friend. Job well done.

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five things, november 12 edition

IMG_4697 1. I think I can't wait to see this young man on the stage again tonight.
2. I think it's finally time I admitted to my husband that I don't like smoked salmon. He already knew about the capers.
3. I haven't downloaded all those photos yet. I think I need a rainy day.
4. I think it's easier to accept disappointment (a little, at least) when you know you're doing the right thing.
5. I think break's over. Back to blogging next week.

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guest blogger

Clearly I've been out of the loop for awhile. Neel's been working me like a dog. (That should make Mark happy.) I have been busy. But I also have a ton of photos on my camera that I'm dreading downloading. I do want to see them though. Maybe I'll get to them today.

So instead of me, I'll bring you my friend David and his dinner. He's an amazing cook, and even though I was pretty sure he was making fun of me...just a little... when he sent the email with these pictures, I can't help but share them. Let's try guessing what these dear friends of ours had for dinner. The wine alone looks amazing.

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The squash looks delish...I think I'm gonna need the recipe, Dave. Why not come down and deliver it in person? We miss you.

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his Tom Sawyer moment

IMG_5246 We've been in this house for seven years now and in the last year have really just started settling into it. I have more to say about that. All my thoughts about sinking into this home deserve a post of their own, I suppose. But this post is about Callum and the fence. We've added a tiny bit of fencing, perpinducular to the house to train some plants and such along. It's the one idea about the front yard that I've had that Neel actually agreed to. The fence went in two weeks ago, and last weekend Callum painted it.

IMG_5254 We paid him cold hard cash to do the job, and he made great work of it. He was nervous at first, but he took his work very seriously (much more so than his father would have, ahem). As a result, the fence looks great. We have another step to get the project completely finished (that will involve more painting and another paycheck, I imagine), and I'll post pictures after that. Nice work, young man.

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brunch (love)

IMG_5280 I think I mentioned last week that we were planning to have some friends over for brunch on Sunday.

IMG_5283 I love brunch. What's not to love? The food is good, the drink is good. There is a relaxed ease that doesn't always come at dinner parties. We hosted this time, and any time someone would say, "Please don't go to too much trouble." I'd say, "As soon as I finish flinging out this ballroom wing." But I find the process of setting the table and getting out Neel's mother's lovely dishes so wonderful and meditative. It's nice and easy to get ready for a Sunday of food and friends.

IMG_5287 Of course there's always the Bloody Mary too.

IMG_5310 Everybody brought a dish to share, and I'm sorry, but I don't have a picture of the pumpkin bread that was such a hit. I got the recipe on epicurious.com if you're at all interested. We had a potato gratin (thanks, Ina!) and a wonderful egg dish along with the most amazing bowl of fresh fruit.

IMG_5315 I was initially concerned that I'd overdone it on the bacon and made too much, but as it turned out we managed to plow through that plate quite nicely until there was nothing left but crumbs.

IMG_5329 The kids all know each other. Most of them went to school together at one point and haven't seen each other in awhile. It was in the house and out of the house. In the house and back out again. All afternoon. We had a perfect fall day.

IMG_5325 Brunch captured their attention for a bit, as did the webcam, which is where they are in these photos. They're good kids. All of them. Where else can you find a group of kids that range from second through seventh grade who can all have fun together? What a delight.

IMG_5355 Ultimately, I'm not a very good feminist. (I know, way to jump around, right? Bear with me here.) I had a roommate once in college (isn't that when we're supposed to be all radical?) who chastised me for daydreaming with another girlfriend about the day when we'd be all grown up and at "the beach house" together. Our kids would be playing in the sand, our husbands on the porch drinking beers, and we'd be chatting in the kitchen, making everyone ham (it had to be ham) sandwiches. She saw that as a sign of my supression: me in the kitchen/he on the porch with the beer. I don't know about supression. Sounds pretty nice to me.

IMG_5351 And then on Sunday, after the plates were cleared, the kids headed back out to toss the corn hole bags at each other and discuss the newest Harry Potter trailer, while the guys sat around the table sampling Old Smokey. Tracy, Debbie(Cate), and I moved into the kitchen. In between, "Is that your new lipstick?" and "Is it weird that my hip hurts this much?" we did the dishes and got them out of the way. Suddenly Tracy said, "You guys, we're married!" I knew exactly what she meant. Debbie(Cate) chimed in saying that just the other day she'd walked up to her husband in a store saying, "We have two kids." Like, oh my God, we have two kids. How did this happen? Here we are. As women, we know we all love each other. But also, we're married. Our husbands like each other too. They're sitting around the table together! We're grown up! We're all grown up, and here we are having brunch.

I couldn't help thinking back to that conversation, all those years ago. Had I even met Neel yet? It had to be a long time ago. Over twenty years. The men around the table, talking talking. The women in the kitchen, cleaning and talking talking. My old roommate didn't know the wonder of what she could be missing out on. Who is suppressed here? On any given night, Neel is the one breaking glassware in our sink as he does the dinner dishes. This was just three families gathered together. Gathered happily. It was perfect. The whole day was perfect. I was just where I wanted to be.

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