five things, july 8 edition

Violet-11. I think Violet (Mrs. Jeter) is more excited about Derek Jeter reaching 3,000 hits than any of us. She has been glued to the MLB channel.
2. I think (are you sick of hearing about this yet? did you think I'd given up?) I made some serious headway on Lightroom yesterday. It boiled down to making organizational decisions, and let's face it, I'm just not that organized. If I have time today, I'm going to jump in and see if I can make some things really happen.
3. I think I love it when Neel is in a chatty mood in the mornings.
4. I think Callum has some very exciting things on deck for next week. I can't wait to tell you all about them.
5. I think I'm in a very "want-y" mood these days. (Shopping is hope for the future.) I have so much I want to  - and that I actually am getting rid of, but if I made a list of the things I really want right now, I fear it would be fairly long.

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five things, july 1 edition

Cake 1. I think I'm most proud of my husband today.
2. I think I'm in the mood to do something big. Not sure what that is yet, but I'm feeling the need to stretch a bit.
3. I think I'm we're all very excited that Ama is here. Posting may be light at the start of next week.
4. I think I'm trying to remember that 80% (or was it 95?) of the things that we worry about never come true.
5. I think it's pretty funny that I, who am not a baker, always feel compelled to bake in anticipatition of my mom's visit, especially given the fact that she is (a baker, that is.).

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come and see the kitchen, what it is

Kitchen-2
There were three things about this kitchen remodel that were really important to me. Open shelving, concrete counters, and a gas range. I stuck to my guns on all three, and I'm so glad I did. The open shelving took convincing the contractors. I know, you shouldn't have to convince your contractor, but they did try to talk us out of them. Someone pointed out that you'll see the clutter. Well, we have plenty of cabinets to hide the cluttery stuff. Someone else pointed out that the stuff on the shelves will get dusty. Well, I have an answer for that too. The things on the bottom shelf, and most of the middle shelf really, we use almost every day. The things on the top shelf, my pretty platters, well we always wash them before we use them anyway. Dust-schmust.

Kitchen-4 The gas range was important to me too. I would not say that it took convincing necessarily, but Neel might have needed time to understand how important cooking with gas was to me. Given that getting gas to the kitchen was a tricky task, I had a bit of a stand to take, but he gets it. Cooking is a big part of sustaining our family, not only physically but emotionally. We had a gas stove in California, I dearly missed it when we moved here to Virginia. This stove has an electric oven (bonus) and a griddle that we use all the time. It's good. Good to me and good to our family.

Kitchen-15 I felt pretty strongly about concrete counters too. Partly for the look, partly to not take something else away from the earth, and partly just to be different! Neel took some convincing here too. After he let me do some research and looked into it with me, he was on board. Our contractor didn't have any experience with concrete, so I can't blame him for suggesting granite. We didn't want granite.

Kitchen-3 Here's the sink. You can't see it in this picture, but under the dish rack the counter is sloped to help the water drain into the sink. Neel loves that part.

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Kitchen-6 It was our concrete guy who recommended that we place tiles from the backsplash in the counter in the hallway. Good call! The thing that's tricky with concrete is that you can do anything you want with it. Any color, most any shape. If you want to add your wine-bottle collection, well, do that too. It was hard to decide. Ultimately (obviously) we thought that the dark charcoal would provide a nice contrast to the light cabinets.

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Kitchen-5 Now the hallway and kitchen go together.

Kitchen-10 The backsplash ties into the counter in the hall...cohesive. My mom got me that gorgeous stockpot for Mother's Day. I love the way it looks in here.

Kitchen-11 We put in new floors too. The old floors were pretty beat up, and knowing that we couldn't match the orignal floors in the house we went with full-on contrast. The floors tie the hall, kitchen and family room all together.

Kitchen-13 Here's the family room from the dining room doorway.

Kitchen-14 Violet loves it there.

 Are there things we don't like or things we wish we'd done differently? Oh, sure. The sink is a bit low to be as deep as it is. Especially for taller folk. I wish we had a better placement for the microwave too. Right now it's on the counter in the hallway (see above), and I really, really don't like it there. I'm working on it though. Much as I'd love to tuck it away somewhere, I'm not sure it's possible. At this point I'd settle for getting it up off the counter. Maybe a shelf above the counter in the hall, but I might be getting carried away with shelves! We need some doors in the hallway, one in particular to hide a storage area (I'm leaning frosted.), and I'd like a better bar/wine cabinet. In the family room, the coffee table is too small, but it works for now. We probably could use a better tv table too...more to scale. But seriously? That's it. Not too bad.

Kitchen-1 This might be my favorite part of the house, but...

Kitchen-12 I'm not sure the dogs agree.

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come and see the kitchen, what it was

Our neighbors Rebecca and Evans are remodeling their kitchen, and watching their process really takes me back to our whole major kitchen re-do. I'm happy in this space every day, and believe me, we spend a lot of time in this space every day. I'm not sure I ever gave a tour of the finished project (There are still bits and pieces of quarter round to go up, but what project is ever really finished, ya know?), so I thought I'd do that. But first, let's look back, shall we, to what once was...

IMG_1855 It started like this. When I had the flu and was home sick for a week, I watched a lot of HGTV. HGTV is perfect when you have the flu (or any other illness, I imagine) because you can be awake for the first part, doze off for the middle, and stir yourself just at the end to see the final product. All I wanted to do was paint the walls (they were, at the time, a rich mustardy yellow) and get a new backsplash. We ended up with new paint and a new backsplash, yes, but also counters, floors, a new range and hood, sink, dishwasher, and a whole new hallway/room. Not too shabby. However, because I often think that Neel thinks I'm the excessive one in our marriage, I feel it's necessary to remind him that all I wanted was to paint and maybe put in a new backsplash.

  IMG_2605 Here's a really messy in-progress "before" shot. Note the detrius on the counter. Note also the mustard walls, going gray and the hated backsplash above the stove. Fortunately, getting rid of the backsplash meant getting rid of the counter, which I also hated. Let me see if I have a picture of that....

IMG_5167 Lordy, I hated that counter. U G L Y. Buh-bye.

Last 12 Months - 0079 For a long time we lived with the pantry in the family room and dining room. Neel attached a faucet to a piece of plywood so we'd have a sink, but still...it was rough. And dusty. More on the dust in a bit.

Last 12 Months - 0093 The kitchen gets demolished and cabinets get delivered.

Last 12 Months - 0180   Cabinets get installed.

Last 12 Months - 1640 Counters get built and installed.

Last 12 Months - 0148 Through it all (and the installation of the concrete farmhouse sink was especially tricky), Neel kept laughing. That's why I married him, people.

Last 12 Months - 0141 After we started on the kitchen, Neel couldn't help but take a look at the useless little hallway we had off the kitchen. This hall ended with the living room on the other side of the back wall. It was narrow and dark, housed a pantry of sorts and a big water heater. It was my friend Mark who first suggestedt that we look into blowing a hole into that wall, making a straight path from the front door through the kitchen.

Last 12 Months - 0346 Neel's tricky. He lulls you into thinking he's cautious, but as soon as he decided on something, he pulls the trigger. He surprised me with that little hole - that's the wall on the living room side.

Last 12 Months - 0361 It quickly became this.

Last 12 Months - 0367 Then this.

Last 12 Months - 0435 And this.

Last 12 Months - 2536 Cue the electrician. (only the best electrician ever, by the way)

Last 12 Months - 2814 Add some gorgeous plaster work...

Last 12 Months - 2615

Last 12 Months - 2985 And in addition to a new kitchen, we have a hallway/butler's pantry...with a door at either end. When Neel and I first started talking about re-doing the kitchen, I pointed out that we spend 90% of our waking time in the kitchen and family room. Why not make it something we really, really loved? And now we do. While I feel like there are maybe one or two things I'd do differently, and a couple things I'd still like to figure out, for the most part, we didn't compromise at all. Check back tomorrow to see how it all turned out.

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not on the list

Fall
I did not put "getting a concussion" on our list of things to do this summer. Turns out I should have. Yesterday, in our familiar flurry to get out the door (Callum has tennis camp at his school this week), I slipped on some water on a tile floor and hit my head on a brick wall going down. As you can see, I hit some other things too. (That's an ice pack on the huge lump on my shin, by the way.)

Everything went dark for a second, and Callum tells me I said, "whoa." My immediate thought when I realized what happened was that somehow I needed to get Callum to camp. It was time to leave right now. Funny how your mind shifts to the important stuff, hmm? Poor Callum called Neel and helped me get upstairs to change clothes (I'd landed in the dogs' water dish) before cleaning up the mess, and I learned yet again that sometimes what is planned is not what is meant to be.

Neel got Callum off to camp, and I spent the day hunkered down, feeling queasy and sore. And still it was a good day. I was well tended to. My friend Jean, who had been outside when Neel came to get Callum, called to check in on me and brought me Tylenol for all my aches and pains. (Apparently ibuprofin, which my scientist husband had suggested I take, could cause bleeding in my brain...) I checked in with Catherine, whose baby I was supposed to watch for a bit yesterday, and she promptly hugged me and sent me back to bed. I called my friend Beck to ask the favor which we'd jovially declared we'd never need. Could she pick Callum up from camp for me? Sure enough, even though she wasn't feeling great herself, she was right there. Later that afternoon, at Callum's request, Nurse Rebecca came by with the diagnosis, advice and sweet concern.

So really, what more could a woman ask for (besides not to have a big lump on her head or the lingering headache)? When I needed it, everyone around me, all my dear dear loved ones stepped in...all I had to do was ask. I'm not good at the asking part. I don't like to do it one bit. But any and all of these things I'd do ten million times over for any of these guys, and there's no greater gift than knowing that they'd do and have done the same for me.

    In the car to get Callum (I rode along; I just didn't want to drive.), I said to Beck, "Thank you SO much for helping me out today."
    "It's no problem," she told me.
    "I know it's not," I said, "but that doesn't mean I'm not grateful."

So here we are, sore as all heck, but not as queasy. Neel woke me (per Rebecca's instruction) a few times last night, and I think I'll live. Feeling luckier than before.

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cheers, dears

Williamsburg-3 We spent a couple days in Williamsburg with some dear friends a weekend or so ago. It's the weekend that prompted me to say several cryptic things here like, "I'm looking so forward to seeing some friends this weekend that I can't contain myself." and "I think sometimes it's okay to put the camera down and just live life." That last sentence is tinged with regret, because I wish we had more pictures of all of us.

Williamsburg-7 Instead of taking many pictures, we lived life. Outlets, go-carts...

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Williamsburg-8 I lovelovelove this shot of Seamane and Neel.

Williamsburg-5 Rob and Callum had to ride this thing called the DISKO. They were the only ones on it. You can barely see Callum, up near the top, under the K.

Williamsburg-6 Callum looks uncertain here, but Rob...

Williamsburg-10 In practically every picture I shot, Rob had that same grin on his face!

And that was just the first day!

We had a great dinner that first night at one of my favorite places in the world where for the first time I tried and very much liked a French 75. And after breakfast the next day, the boys and girls split up. One set of us going to Busch Gardens and the other set to the Williamsburg Spa. See if you can guess who went where.

At Busch Gardens, we the guys rode every ride, many times over. At the Spa, we had scrubs and massages and lunch and pedicures. And when we weren't separated by treatments, we talked and talked and talked. Afterward, Seamane and I had a cocktail at the Williamsburg Inn, and sitting on their gorgeous terrace, we talked some more. People, we had years to catch up on. I can't even tell you.

We regrouped for dinner at a restaurant that has been recommended to us many times over. I tried to get reservations on Open Table, and the site said no times were available for the next eight weeks! At dinner that first night, Neel stopped in and got reservations for 6:30 the next night, just like that! No problem.

Williamsburg-4 Seamane hands Rob a sip of her wine.

Appetizers (tuna), the most scrumptious fish for dinner...I had scallops, Neel had grouper and Seamane and Rob had melt-in-your-mouth salmon. Callum was polite and pleasant and earned high marks from our server. It was a near-perfect dinner.

Williamsburg-2 Actually, check out that dessert menu. I had the sea-salt brownie and didn't really share. I'd say not near-perfect. About as perfect as perfect can get.

Williamsburg-1 I've known Seamane since I was younger than Callum is now. Crazy isn't it? We were friends for a long time and then we grew up. I can't say we grew apart, exactly because we just grew up. College and life and now it's (ahem) twenty years (or so) later. But what a gift. I can't imagine anything more special than the fact that we loved each other before, as kids, and now that we've found each other again...well, as grown-ups I think we love each other even more. And the bonus? The sea salt on my brownie? Our families like each other too. Our husbands clicked, although, let's face it. Given both of these wonderful men, not hard to do. And Callum? Well, I think they like Callum! For his part, Callum has asked that Seamane and Rob be his honorary aunt and uncle. Since that christening last week, I get the sense that he's casting about for his own set of godparents. My cup is full.

We need to see them again, and soon. And next time, I'll take more pictures.

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five things, june 24 edition

Beach_kids-1 1. I think saying goodbye is hard.
2. I think I love summertime. This is shaping up to be a good one.
3. I think our family is having some interesting conversations, inspired by the christening we attended last weekend. More to come on that later, I imagine.
4. I think the potatoes from Neel's garden are some of the best I've ever tasted.
5. I think it's time to take another step in the living room re-do. Anyone know a good upholsterer?

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the list

List After too many summers where we feel like we've left much undone, this year we made a list. It's a fluid thing, getting tweaked and added to... seems I can always think of more I want to do. But June's almost gone, and I'm starting to panic! In case you can't really read it (and actually want to), I'll lay it out for you here:

1. Be happy
2. Bike rides
3. Callum and Momma run a mile
4. Family beach days/mornings/dinners
5. Papa drinks more water!
6. Board game/game night @ least 1x a week
7. Callum cooks dinner
8. Callum and Momma cook together
9. Do more!
10. Explore the area
11. Go to the lab (Callum with Papa)
12. Lunch once a week with Papa
13. Walks after dinner
14. Tides game (local minor league team)
15. Mini trip for Momma and Callum
16. Sleepovers
17. Neighborhood gatherings (India night)
18. Practice lacrosse
19. Callum learns to dive
20. Callum ties a tie
21. Lauren + Lightroom = friends

We're already making a dent, but like I said, there's more to add. Every day I think of things, it seems. We want to soak up every minute of this wonderful season.

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this little light of mine

  Landon Christening-1 Okay, not mine really, but this beautiful boy was baptized Sunday, and I am lucky enough to be one of his godmothers. Me!

Who knew?

It was a wonderful day. Every minute of it. I felt so blessed to be included, not just in the day but as part of this wonderful family. The whole ceremony and service was so moving, really. A special way to kick off Father's Day.

Landon Christening-2 I know that pretty soon this little man will be running rough and tumble with his brother and all the boys in the neighborhood, and I can't wait. But until then, you can't get more angelic than this.

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five things, june 17 edition

Shed wall-1 1. I think sometimes it's okay to put the camera down and just live life.
2. I think we really hit the ground running since school let out. Drinks with neighbors, pool party, dinner with friends, quick getaway weekend (incl. spa day & Busch Gardens!), Rudee Rocket, and coming up: dinner with friends, drinks with neighbors, dinner with friends, a christening...Whew! I'm ready to s l o w
d o w n and have some routine and order.
3. I think I haven't really liked this masthead since I put it up, and I'm ready to change it.
4. I think it's hard to have words for how much this past weekend meant to me. A friend, from long ago, lost and then found again, only to discover that we mean maybe more to each other as adults than we ever did as kids (plus, I love her husband too.). Seriously, how do you find words for that?
5. I think I'm looking forward to a special celebration this weekend and I'm incredibly touched to have been asked to be part of a certain young man's life. His family means very much to me.

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five things, first friday of summer vacation edition

IMG_2177 1. I think being awakened by birdsong before five after staying up late with Callum to watch game 5 of the NBA finals is not quite the way I wanted to start the day.
2. I think whereas last year was very much an "I don't want to grow up summer," this year might be more of an "I'm grown up enough" summer.
3. I'm looking so forward to seeing some friends this weekend that I can't contain myself.
4. I think the long lazy days (even hot) stretching before us is a lovely feeling indeed. We intend to take full advantage.
5. I think I read one of my favorite lines ever over at Habit a little while ago: Summer means saying yes more often. Like I said, we intend to take full advantage.

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another year

Callumtie Dear Callum,

I can't believe we're writing another end of year letter. I checked back just now, and this is the fourth year I've written you one of these. You can read the others here and here and here. This year feels big for some reason. Bigger than usual. You've faced a lot of changes and have been challenged a lot, but you've grown a lot too.

Your Papa and I did everything we could last summer to make this transition to a new school as easy as possible for you. A couple of camps in the new place, to give you a feel for the lay of the land, and we even (through the help of some friends in high places) got you in the 5th grade class of one of your camp teachers, right along with your BFF. Not a shabby way to start things off, you know? Still, it was a hard summer for you, I think, as you anticipated the change.

IMG_4390 On the first day of school, Papa and I both thought that you were the bravest person we'd ever known.

  Callum&Violet It's been a great year though, hasn't it, my lovely? A lot of new stuff to adjust to. Dress codes, bigger classes, longer days and heavier homework loads. Serving the younger kids lunch in the Refectory was a big adjustment too. Eating a lunch that Papa didn't make you was a big change for all of us! You ate it up though (so to speak!). I can tell you feel a quiet pride when we run into a younger student from your school who says hi to you, and we then hear that kid say to a parent, "He serves me."

IMG_8111 From the beginning you worked hard, learning that if you knuckle down and get it done, you have more time to relax. You responded well to the fact that there were more tests than you'd been used to previously. I think you like the concrete feedback. Your grades have been so good, almost from the very beginning. And even the things you've struggled with in the past (like math), saw great successes this year. You continue to be captivated by history and reading and science. You memorized the Gettysburg Address this year (I should totally post a video of you reciting it!), and decided, after a Hands-On Science lesson that you wanted to be a scientist when you grew up, saying, "There. I've decided. That feels good." Your father is over the moon with happiness about that one, you know!

IMG_7898There's been some great weather this school year. Hurricane Earl, the hurricane that wasn't, closed school in the first weeks. Early dismissals came around Christmas for festive snowstorms, and over Christmas itself we had the storm of the century! What fun that was! Inches and inches of snow. A wonderland. Even this spring, we had a storm knock out power to the campus for an unexpectedly sunny day out of school. We loved watching the news for word and getting those "school's out" emails. One never grows out of that, it seems.

IMG_9174 You haven't been sick very much this year, although you've been hammered with your first migraines. Hopefully there won't be many more. You love sports and PE and any chance to move your body, but you still love reading, and had a blast when Richard Peck visited your school. The Redwall series, by Brian Jacques has been a favorite, and out of class you also enjoyed Theodore Boone, Kid Lawyer by John Grisham. In class, you read some of my favorites including Roll of Thunder Hear My Cry and Tuck Everlasting. 

IMG_1033 You are a delightful companion. You always speak with such confidence and ease with adults, and I am enjoying more and more the conversations we have. You show a remarkable maturity and empathy, whether it's with a character you're reading about or a kid in your class. Sometimes I forget that you're eleven, but you still readily tuck in for a snuggle so I know you're still my sweet boy. You're enjoying the garden with Papa, and you're sparking an interest in cooking. I can't wait to see what you come up with us to eat this summer! You've developed an interest in music, ranging from the Beatles to Lady Gaga. Your iPod is a near-constant companion. Sometimes that's an issue, but often it's not. Often it's just fun for you.

IMG_1891 You jumped in to a lot of new things this year too. The Lower School play and a basketball clinic. In Bulldog Bytes, you participated in a Lower School newscast, taking on responsibilities from director to video to anchor person. So much has happened, I know I'll leave something out! You dropped an egg (successfully) in an egg drop, raised money in a read-a-thon, survived TV turn-off week, line danced on Wild West Day, and met some famous authors. You tried out for the forensics team and made it nearly all the way. When you weren't chosen to go to the local competition, I asked: would you rather be at your old school with a guarantee of making the team or be here, at your new school with the risk of not making it. You didn't hesitate before saying, "Here." We knew, but that cemented it. It was the right choice for you.

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When Papa and I made the decision to change schools, moving you into a bigger and more competitive environment, part of what we wanted was for you to be the rule, not the exception. We knew that if the kids around you were striving for good grades and success on the athletic fields or in the auditorium, well, you'd strive for it too. Your new school is not for everyone, we recognize that, but it has surely been a good fit for you. You thrive in the structure and expectation. Here, everyone dresses up for picture day, not just you.

Callum walkAnd that seems like just the right place for you to be. It hasn't always been easy, and you've had to deal with some hard stuff (some of which you'd prefer I not talk about here). Still, we've loved every step of fifth grade, my dearest. Your teachers have been an amazing, perfect fit for you. Every time I talk to them, it's so clear that they get and appreciate you. In each of your conferences, your teacher has called you polite and a pleasure to have in class. Words every parent loves to hear! I hate for it to end. Good thing we've heard that sixth grade is even better, although I can't imagine being prouder of you. Papa and I love you very much, my little man. My favorite moo. My dearest you.

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brushcetta for Debbie

Bruschetta-3 We had dinner with some friends a couple of weekend ago, and my friend Debbie (Cate) brought bruschetta for an appetizer. Fortunately she brought a lot, because after the grown-ups were through, my son demolished the rest of the bounty. He's funny like that. Gets focused, on anything thing really, but food-focused for sure, and can't unfocus. It's hard to unfocus on bruschetta. I'll give him that.

Bruschetta-2 It reminded me that we used to (back in the day) have bruschetta for dinner quite often. Time to put it back into rotation. We followed Debbie's (Cate)  lead and had tomato bruschetta, but I'd also found another recipe I'd wanted to try.

  Bruschetta-4
Lemon Thyme Ricotta Bruschetta...I got the recipe here, and didn't deviate one bit. Hello, yum. I liked it better than the rest of my family, but they'll have to deal. It goes into the rotation too.

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progress

Mantle-1 So the great living room redo continues apace. Slowly, but still. It continues. I painted the fireplace wall, which had been a color called "tamarind" (It can be seen here.), and now it's PINK. I know, PINK! It's almost barely pink, and I love it. Actually everyone does. I'm so glad I went with my instincts and just did it. The room already feels lighter and brighter.

Cabinet-1 Finally, finally, we're I'm starting to tackle painting the trim. Of course the dentil moulding is taking three coats. Of course it is. But, oh good grief, it looks so much better. I can't believe we waited so long. So the windows are done, the baseboards almost, and the dentil...Well, we're working on it.

Next up, furniture. I'm not sure I'm going to manage Mark's $500 limit (we have to reupholster a sofa and need at least one new chair), but I'll try.

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harvest (#2)

Potatoes-3 After reading the information that came with the Yukon gold potatoes that Neel planted (which basically said, "harvest when ready"), we decided to pull out a test batch.

Potatoes-2 Baby potatoes!

Potatoes-1 It may have been early to pull them, but they sure were tasty (cleaned up and cooked, of course!). We're going to let the others go a bit longer, but it's hard to wait. It's a process, I know, and so far Neel's test garden has been a delight. We're battling squirrles and sometimes birds, but everyday there's something new to see. Those are the kinds of works-in-progress I like.

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five things, june 3 edition

Cheep-1 1. I think we've had much entertainment and joy watching a family of robins use our backyard as a nursery this week.
2. I think I'm ready for summer. I've already been mentally crafting my end-of-year post for Callum. I can't believe fifth grade is (almost) over.
3. I think we've had some hard lessons this week. All of us. And I know I'm very proud of my son.
4. I think it was probably a mistake to have taken this last photography class. I've simply been too busy to give it the attention I wanted to. That's been disappointing, but it's all on me. I love my work, and I actually love how I've been able to throw myself into it so totally over the last weeks, but I miss balance. I miss taking pictures and being able to focus on other things in my life. There is a light at the end of the tunnel though. And I have a treat coming up next weekend. I can't wait.
5. I think my pink living room wall has been a big hit.

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purple haze

Clematis-1 I told you the garden was bursting out at the seams. This clematis has crawled back from near death many a time, and this year it's at its best.

I'm crawling back too. Trying like mad to finish some projects before school lets out. Why does time speed up in April, May and June? We've had a wonderful few days of it and a wonderful weekend too. First trip to the beach of the season, lots of time in the yard with friends. All good. I've resigned myself that I just won't get a handle on Lightroom until summer starts (and my other projects are done), but that I can't let that stop me from taking pictures. It has kinda. I've been too busy to edit and not a little daunted by the task ahead of me. But that's what summer is for. Figuring that stuff out.

We had our Summer Planning Meeting at dinner last night! It was great! I can't wait to get started. Not long now. Callum has seven days left. It feels like no time at all and it feels like forever.

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